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WE ALWAYS compare ourselves with others. And more
often than not we feel what others have, or have achieved, is more than what
we have and start feeling jealous.
When we are not able to bear
others' excellence, we get jealous. Comparison is the seed and jealousy is
the fruit.
We cannot deal with jealousy directly. Even if we tell ourselves
repeatedly not to compare ourselves with others and not to feel jealous, we
cannot overcome it. Even if we keep telling ourselves not to feel inferior
because we are less wealthy than a neighbour, less handsome than a
colleague, less intelligent than an acquaintance, we still feel inferior.
And the jealousy that comes out of it is a very powerful emotion.
In reality, comparison does not have positive existence; it has
negative existence. It only exists in our minds.
An object that has positive existence can be moved from one place
to another place. Let's take the example of darkness.
Can darkness be moved from one room to another? No! be cause it
does not have a positive existence. But by bringing light into the room, it
can be made to disappear.
same way, comparison that has negative existence cannot be
removed. But it can be made to overcome by bringing understanding and
awareness into our minds.
Comparison result in low self-esteem or high self-esteem.
With low self-esteem, we attack other persons whom we are jealous
of and we suppress our-selves. With high self-esteem, we try to support our
active ego. this is the way seed of violence and misery are sown in us.
We continuously run our life based on comparison. In consequence,
we pick up the attitude of violence; we pull other people down; we learn
methods to stop their progress. When we start to compare, it means we are
picking up desires from other people. We try to work out other's desires
instead of living our own desires and trying to fulfill them.
We need to realise that each one of us is unique. God is an artist
not a machinist. He sculpts each one of us with his own hands lovingly,
uniquely. Therefore, each one of us is different.
If this is understood clearly, there will be scope for comparison.
We will enjoy our own uniqueness and blossom with it, unparalleled in our
own way.
Be blissful! |
